You can’t win if you are not in the game

“You can’t win if you are not in the game.”

James Clear, Author of Atomic Habits

Honey takes a nap

Over the past several months, many of my posts have included my thoughts and reflections of my grandchildren.  Today’s post involves their dog, Honey.

Honey is a fluffy white nine-year-old miniature poodle who definitely doesn’t act her age.

The minute we step in the door she shifts into a puppy mode of frenetic excitement at the prospect of playing fetch. Her wagging tail, flopping ears, extended tongue and jumps of joy say, Put Me in Coach, I want to play and show you my stuff!

EXERCISE:

Where in your life are you on the field and in the game?

Where are you on the bench or on the sidelines watching others?

What games get your tail wagging with excitement?

A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company

“A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company.”

Charles Evans Hughes, 11th Chief Justice of the United States

 

Image from Unsplash by Caspian Dahlström

Imagine spending a month or more completely alone, with no one to talk with.

The Netflix series “Alone” places ten individuals with expert survival skills in remote locations. Their goal is to live off the land and outlast the other nine participants, whom they never meet.

In the early stages of this adventure everyone is stoked, positive about the opportunity to challenge themselves, become the last one standing, and receive a $500,000 prize for their effort.

Building shelters, sourcing food and water, and braving the elements keeps everyone pretty occupied, especially during the daylight hours. At night their thoughts often go to a darker side of the experience, given their complete isolation.

With their two video cameras and their efforts at documentary filmmaking, we see their wild journeys that include the physical and mental aspects of starvation and loneliness.

EXERCISE:

Describe the company you keep in your personal and professional worlds.

How much alone time do you experience?

How successful are you at befriending yourself during periods of isolation and loneliness?

Please reply to this post with your thoughts and feelings.

Explore the softening effect of an open heart

Explore the softening effect of an open heart. Enter new frontiers of your world unarmed and with your shields down.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Tim Milk

A few weeks ago, I was invited out to breakfast with several walking buddies. The conversation took a nostalgic turn to examine the ways in which the world has changed since we were kids.

Back then things like virus protection and cyber-attacks were not part of our vocabulary, and it was not uncommon to leave our doors to our homes unlocked. Home security systems, double authentication, and constantly being on guard for scams and the latest Ponzi scheme were not on our radar. It seemed like a much simpler and friendlier time where mutual trust was the norm.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life do you have your shields up?

How does taking this stance influence your relationships with those around you?

How could a more open-hearted, unarmed approach enhance your life and the world around you?

 

Friday Review: Worry

Friday Review: Worry

How often do you consider or question the benefits of worrying? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.”

 

 

 

 

“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.”

 

 

 

“Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”

 

 

 

 

Tears of joy are like the summer raindrops pierced by sunbeams

“Tears of joy are like the summer raindrops pierced by sunbeams.”

Hosea Ballou, 19th Century American clergyman

Image from Unsplash by Hanna Morris

When was the last time you experienced tears of joy?

Who was present and what occasion or event precipitated this precipitation?

For me, it all started with pizza night at our daughter’s home.

During dinner, my 5 year old grandson Weston introduced me to a new word he learned —informing me that his room was “a disaster.”

Since we usually head upstairs to play on my visits, I suggested he take 5-10 minutes to clean up and proudly show off his speedy efforts.

Our daughter Rachel and little Ella (21 months) joined in the fun to everyone’s delight.

Being an old softy, I couldn’t help tearing up and laughing at the sight of these little ones playing with me and their wonderful mom.

EXERCISE:

Who are the people who pierce the raindrops of your life with sunbeams?

Please feel free to reply to this post with one of your own joyful moments.

The belief that there is some future moment more worth our presence than

“The belief that there is some future moment more worth our presence than the one we’re in right now is why we miss our lives.”

Cory Muscara, International speaker and teacher of Mindfulness and positive psychology

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Many people have mixed feelings about social media.

What appears as folks showing off their latest vacation or other life adventure puts off those who prefer to live more private lives.

On the other hand, seeing examples of people living large, engaged, and vital lives can be a type of coaching for those who desire greater joy and meaning.

One individual who shares her life with tremendous humility, dignity, and grace is Sam Horn. Her blogs and books are definitely worth a good look. In 2019, she even wrote a book titled Someday is Not a Day in the Week.

EXERCISE:
Check out Sam’s work and her resource rich website. Her newest book has the catchy title, Talking on Eggshells.

“It’s easier to have the vigor of youth when you’re old than the wisdom of age when you are young.”

“It’s easier to have the vigor of youth when you’re old than the wisdom of age when you are young.”

Richard J. Needham, 20th Century Canadian humor columnist

Image from Unsplash by Maarten van den Hovel

One of the many bonuses of moving back to Pennsylvania is that we are now neighbors with our cousins Paul and Carol. Paul is the patriarch of our family since the passing of my dad a little over two years ago.

One of the many things we all admire about Paul is his boundless energy. In his early eighties, he still works two part-time jobs, runs five miles a day, and plays a mean game of ping pong! In early July, he attended five concerts in one week with his daughter, down the Jersey shore.

We all agree that Paul definitely rocks—and has a pretty good voice when the music is turned up.

EXERCISE:

How can you maintain the vigor of youth as you continue down the path of greater wisdom?

Who are the roles models that guide and coach you in the development of these qualities?

Lend a hand whenever you can.

Lend a hand whenever you can.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Hanna Morris

At the end of this month, Wendy and I will celebrate the second anniversary of our move back to Pennsylvania to be closer to family.

Our senior community consists of 280 homes with many wonderful people. Unlike our previous single home, we are part of what’s called a quad — four households sharing a collective driveway.

This structural difference has made it much easier to say hello to our neighbors, and even knock on one another’s doors when a particular need arises.

Lending a hand seems to come naturally to our quad mates and most folks in our extended community. My walking buddy Alan always has a bag of dog treats to share with our friendly furry friends as we make our morning rounds.

EXERCISE:

Who recently lent you a helping hand?

Where and how can you reciprocate or pay forward this gesture of kindness?

 

Friday Review: Fear

Friday Review: Fear

How often do you let fear stop you from achieving your goal? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.”

 

 

 

“Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”

 

 

 

“Present fears are less than horrible imaginings.”

 

 

 

 

Nothing taught by force stays in the soul

“Nothing taught by force stays in the soul.”

Plato, ancient Greek philosopher

Image from Unsplash by Christopher Ryan

Who were the teachers, mentors, coaches, and family members who had the most positive influence on you while growing up?

How did their lessons and good examples open up your soul to their wisdom, to become an integral part of your personality and character?

How did their kindness and care for your best interest help you remain an open book to guide your current pursuits and project?

EXERCISE:

How often do an open mind and open heart accompany each other?

Where and how can this idea open the souls and minds of others you intend to support and serve?