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To be happy you must let go of what’s gone

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“To be happy you must let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains, and look forward to what is coming.”

—Author Unknown

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How would you rate yourself on a one-to-ten scale of happiness?

How has this number varied over the last several years due to personal, professional, and global events?

Consider how today’s quote offers significant wisdom to level up your score with small mindfulness adjustments.

EXERCISE:

How can you more completely let go of what’s gone?

How can you more fully appreciate what you have?

What are the small and big things that you look forward to in the future?

Embrace beauty wherever you find it. It can magically uplift your

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Embrace beauty wherever you find it. It can magically uplift your life and sweeten your world.

—Calm App Reflection

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Do you have a sweet tooth? What are your favorite desserts, candies, or sugary beverages?

When and where do you indulge in these treats? How do they make you feel before, during, and after you devour them?

We all enjoy taking in the sweetness of life, and delicious food is certainly one way to do this. Consider — as an alternative to a tasty treat — consuming a little more beauty in your world to put smiles on your mouth instead of putting something in it.

EXERCISE:

How can you discover and consume more beauty from the world around you?

Who are the people and what are the places and things that uplift and sweeten your life?

Eating a scoop of ice cream during this exploration works even better!

Friday Review: Silence

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Friday Review: Silence

How often do you experience regular periods of silence? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Think all you speak, but speak not all you think. Thoughts are your own; your words are so no more.”

 

 

 

 

“A smart person knows what to say. A wise person knows whether or not to say it.”

 

 

 

 

 

“When your rage is choking you, it is best to say nothing.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ambition is a get-a-head-ache

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“Ambition is a get-a-head-ache.”

—Vern McClellan, Author of Wise Words from a Wise Guy

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For much of my life, I’ve been pretty ambitious. How about you?

Examine your school years, sports, and even sibling rivalries — how much did you want to get ahead and stay ahead?

Where have your ambitions served you well?

Where have they caused you to stumble and experience pain?

Where is getting ahead of others driving your every action, and where is it driving you crazy?

EXERCISE:

How might you relieve the ache of ambition by focusing on getting ahead of yourself instead of always taking on the world?

The voice of conscience is so delicate that it is easy to stifle it

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“The voice of conscience is so delicate that it is easy to stifle it; but it is also so clear that it is impossible to mistake it.”

—Madame de Stael, 19th century French political theorist

 

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How old were you when you first saw the Disney movie Pinocchio? How well do you remember the story of the puppet who wanted to be a real boy and all the characters he met along the way?

Today’s quote makes me think of Jiminy Cricket and his catch tune, including the phrase, “Let your conscience be your guide.”

How often are you aware of its delicate voice?

How does your conscience guide your daily efforts and actions?

EXERCISE:

How can you more fully tune into the delicate and unmistakable voice of your conscience?

Where is it guiding you these days?

How will you heed its important messages?

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own

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“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.”

—Harold Coffin, 20th century humor columnist for the Associated Press

My Dad — Marvin Demp

A week from today will be the second anniversary of my dad’s passing. Not a day goes by without numerous reminders of this wonderful man.

  • He would frequently tell me why he felt like the richest man in the world
  • His wealth was primarily intrinsic and based on the of love for and from family and friends
  • When others were doing well, he always wished them well without a hint of envy
  • He understood and embraced the abundance in his life and he was perpetually grateful

EXERCISE:

Where do you feel blessed in your life?

Where may the heavy clouds of envy prevent you from experiencing the many riches within arm’s reach?

How good are you at finding silver linings and blessings in disguise

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How good are you at finding silver linings and blessings in disguise?

—Calm App Reflection

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Most people are familiar with the phrase “Seek and Ye Shall Find.”

Since childhood, playing games like hide and seek, peek-a-boo, and scavenger hunts have been ways to find people and things we consider interesting.

As the years roll by, what we tend to look for narrows. We seek pleasure, amusement, and fun, and we definitely do our best to avoid the distasteful and difficult. Over the years, how have you looked at the ups and downs of life for insights and lessons learned?

EXERCISE:

Where have you been blind to finding the silver linings and blessings that were disguised in some of the challenges you’ve faced?

How might greater reflection about your past and a deeper look at present and future events guide you toward a more fulfilling life?

Friday Review: Friendship

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Friday Review: Friendship

What does it mean to be and have a friend? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Probably the most neglected friend you have is you.”

 

 

 

 

 

“When people are like each other, they tend to like each other.”

 

 

 

“To be a good fisherman you must detach yourself from the dream of the fish. This makes whatever is caught or found a treasure.”

 

 

 

 

 

You don’t find your ground by looking for stability

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“You don’t find your ground by looking for stability. You find your ground by relaxing into instability.”

—Cory Muscara, founder of the Long Island Center for Mindfulness

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Have you ever gone camping and had to sleep on the ground? Perhaps you were invited to a sleepover as a kid and the floor was all that was available.

How soft or firm is your current mattress? What qualities of this most important piece of furniture do you value most?

Do you recall the years of the water bed craze?  As a proud early adopter, I still recall the initial instability and the “motion of the ocean” when we first rolled in each evening.

EXERCISE:

Where would relaxing into areas of instability in your life help you discover the stability you seek?

What pleasure and fun might be available if you simply learned to go with the flow more often?

When you are young, you have raw smarts

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“When you are young, you have raw smarts; when you are old, you have wisdom.”

—Arthur C. Brooks, Harvard professor, PhD social scientist, bestselling author

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I agree with today’s quote in most cases, especially for individuals with a growth mindset and a propensity toward lifelong learning.

The pursuit of knowledge and experience takes time.

Raw smarts and wisdom build at different rates.

Consider a heavy rain as it fills a puddle versus years of rain carving a river’s path.

EXERCISE:

How has your growth and development journey evolved over the years?

Where and how have you stepped beyond acquiring raw smarts to embracing the gift of wisdom?