FRIDAY REVIEW: ACCEPTANCE
What is the hardest part of acceptance for you? Here are a few posts related to acceptance you may have missed. Click the links to read the full message.
“Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.”
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The Safest Way to Double Your Money
“The safest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it in your pocket.”
—Kin Hubbard, 20th Century American Journalist
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For many people, money represents freedom, independence, security, and peace of mind. The topic of money can cause all kinds of trouble, and often has great impact on our relationships.
The simple advice to “make more and spend less” doesn’t always cut it, and we often find ourselves continually stressing over our finances.
As we age, many of us begin to appreciate more fully the saying, “The best things in life are not things.” We begin to look closely at how we spend our time, not just our money.
EXERCISE:
Where might taking “The Best Things in Life are Free” approach help you gain greater pleasure and allow you to pocket a bit more of the freedom, independence, security, and peace of mind you desire?
You Must Look Into People as well as at Them
“You must look into people, as well as at them.”
—Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield, 18th Century British Statesman
Taking a sincere interest and seeking to fully understand the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs of another could be one of the most important things we can do to change the world around us.
How many of your problems and life challenges – not to mention those of the world – are due to breakdowns in relationships and communication in general?
How often do you find yourself or someone else engaged in surface observations of others, with a critical or judgmental perspective? How does doing so diminish the relationship qualities including respect, trust, and cooperation?
EXERCISE:
Where and how can you look more deeply into the people in your professional and personal life, to change your world for the better?
Men are Not Against You
“Men are not against you; they’re merely for themselves.”
—Gene Fowler, 20th Century American journalist
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Do you have any enemies? Is there an archnemesis in your personal or professional community? What is it like to be around this person, or even to simply think about them?
What have you done to contribute to the rift between the two of you? What have you tried to perhaps mend fences?
EXERCISE:
Instead of being against one another with all the damage it can produce, how would a better understanding of what this individual stands for help?
Once you better understand their motivators and beliefs, perhaps you can break the vicious cycle of making each other wrong.
The Heart of Any Good Business
“At the heart of any good business is a chief executive officer with one.”
—Malcolm Forbes, late publisher of Forbes Magazine
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The unemployment rate is at the lowest level in decades, and the search for talent is more competitive than any time most of us can remember.
With over 70 million Baby Boomers having exited or in the process of leaving the workforce, the prospect of attracting and retaining top talent to compete successfully in the global economy is not likely to get any easier.
Beyond all the benefits, perks, and bonuses, many leaders are finding it difficult to attract and retain the best and brightest.
EXERCISE:
What heart-based or heart-felt behaviors and cultural efforts can you initiate and sustain throughout your organization? What needs to happen – especially within the leadership ranks – to be one of the Good to Great and Built to Last organizations we so admire?
Friday Review Love
FRIDAY REVIEW: LOVE
What does “love” really mean? How does it affect your decisions and life? Here are a few posts about love you may have missed. Click the links to read the full messages.
“Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.”
“Love the giver more than the gift.”
“At the end of our lives we will ask, ‘Did I Live? Did I Love? Did I Matter?’”
The Wonders We See Around Us
“We carry within us the wonders we see around us.”
—Sir Thomas Browne, 17th Century English Polymath
What does it mean to you to live an extraordinary life? Where do travel and adventure fit into your plans?
Years ago, I picked up a copy of 1000 Places to See Before you Die, and realized I was woefully behind making even a modest dent in the list.
Today’s quote points to the wonderland that is always available to each of us without ever getting into a car, train, boat, or plane.
EXERCISE:
Consider exploring your own inner wonders of creativity, love, spirit, faith, wisdom, kindness, and inner peace.
What other areas could you explore as you view other wonders in the world around you?
Use What Talent You Possess
“Use what talent you possess. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
—Henry Van Dyke, 20th Century American educator
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We live in a hyper-competitive world. Simply look around and see the countless examples in your personal and professional worlds.
For our children, it begins quite early with school and sports and other extra-curricular activities. As we enter our early adult years, the competition to get in the best schools and desirable companies can be fierce. Then we have to climb the corporate ladder.
Perhaps the primary goal of our journey through life is to reveal our unique abilities and talents. Perhaps it is our job or purpose to express and share them with the world as we become better versions of ourselves.
EXERCISE:
What are your special talents? How can and will you develop them to your fullest capacity, and offer them generously within your communities with your voice both loud and proud?
Walking With the Trees
“Today I have grown taller from walking with the trees.”
—Karle Wilson Baker, 20th Century American Poet
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In the plant world, trees are among the most remarkable living creatures. In addition to being some of the largest and oldest living things, they have the ability to defy gravity. They reach toward the sky to absorb the sun’s energy, using it to make their own food through the process of photosynthesis.
I believe today’s quote points us to those tall, stand-out people within our personal or professional communities. These are the individuals we most admire and see as leaders who inspire us to stretch for our own greatest heights.
EXERCISE:
How and in what ways can you grow and stand even taller by walking with and associating with others who are stretching skyward toward the canopy of life?
Play the Tiles You Get
“Play the tiles you get.”
—Grandma Nelly
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In her book, 365 Days of Wonder, R.J. Palacio shares a charming story of her grandparents. Both avid Scrabble players, they played every day for more than 50 years.
Her grandfather, known as being the “intellectual,” almost always lost to his wife, who was primarily a homemaker, not the lawyer who graduated from Columbia.
Grandma Nelly was quite smart in her own right. She loved crossword puzzles. She had a miraculous ability to make the most of the tiles she was given rather than waiting to use the highest value tiles on double or triple word spaces. That was grandpa’s strategy.
EXERCISE:
In what areas of life are you waiting to get better tiles? What would be the value and benefit of learning to play the ones you currently have, and those you receive each day?