“I will accept your influence, guidance, and direction if (and only if) I believe that you and I share similar goals.”
—David Maister, former Harvard Business School professor
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How coachable are you? How open and receptive are you to the guidance, direction and influences of others in your professional or personal life?
I begin working with all new clients with an all-day, one-on-one workshop in my office to clarify and fully align on the specific goals and objectives we intend to produce. With this up-front investment to align our objectives we can optimize the full benefit and value of our relationship.
How can and will you enhance the receptivity and coach-ability of yourself and those around you by doing the up-front work of assuring shared goals for your efforts?
To what extend do you consider yourself a leader? Perhaps you are a manager or executive. Maybe you have your own company or plan on starting one soon. What is your leadership style? Are you a lighthouse that shines your light as a vision to guide and inspire? Perhaps you operate as a lifeboat, constantly doing far too much of the heavy lifting and seeing it as your job to save people and carry them to safety.
Who are the leaders that have inspired you through their good examples and challenged you to always be and do your best?
The key word in the last sentence is “Your,” which points to the critical aspect of living an authentic self-directed life.
Where might a “less you” and “more them” approach to leadership be the best approach to realize greater fulfillment and success for everyone?
Note: If you happen to be a parent, please try this approach with your children. Feel free to reply to this post and let me know how things go!
“A man’s pride can be his downfall, and he needs to learn when to turn to others for support and guidance.”
—Bear Grylls, British Adventurer
Image of Bear Grylls from DailyExpress
If you were to look up the phrase “rugged individual or adventurer” on the internet, you would likely see a photo and description of Bear Grylls.
He served in the British army, trained in unarmed combat, desert and winter warfare, survival, climbing, and parachuting. He is also noted for his numerous expeditions, including:
Climbing Mount Everest
Circumnavigating the United Kingdom on a jet ski
Crossing the North Atlantic in a rigid inflatable boat
Climbing remote and “unclimb-able” peaks in Antarctica
Although much personal attention has created his celebrity status, he points out most vividly, with today’s quote, that in virtually all cases, his successes involved and were dependent on the support and guidance of others.
Where in your personal or professional life have you been going it alone to achieve what you desire? Where and on what matters it is time to more fully embrace and yes, request the assistance of others in your various communities?