Be Nice

“To thine own self be nice.”

-Author Unknown

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Image from choosetobenice.com

A critical component of all coaching relationships is to significantly increase each individual’s self awareness. To achieve this, various strategies can be utilized, including a wide variety of assessments, interviews with colleagues, family, and friends, and of course, discussions with the clients themselves.

Through these efforts, behavioral achievement, cognitive and leadership traits can be evaluated. Greater insights are also revealed about their beliefs, attitudes, values, and perspectives on themselves and the world around them.

One surprising observation I’ve made over the years is just how many people demonstrate a more critical view of themselves than of others. For some reason, they demonstrate an “I am not enough/not good enough” attitude, which is obviously self-limiting.

EXERCISE:

How would a “To thine own self be nice, accepting, and more loving” approach make a meaningful difference in your life or the lives of others you care about?

I Have Hope

“I have hope and I’m not afraid to use it.”

-Author Unknown

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Image from porsperityconnection.org

One of the top qualities I look for in my coaching clients is optimism—a hopeful perspective on life. Through an unscientific evaluation, I have found that such individuals are generally more successful and far more satisfied with their efforts and progress. They are also far more enjoyable to be around.

Fearful and pessimistic individuals, on the other hand, tend to look through the lens of what is wrong or what won’t work, and therefore, stop themselves or avoid attempting new pursuits where failure is possible.

They often see even good things that happen to them as temporary or a “fluke,” as opposed to the hopeful people who see setbacks as only temporary.

EXERCISE:

How would an even more hopeful perspective on life help you achieve better results and attract more wonderful, equally hopeful people into your world?

Friday Review: Breakthroughs

Friday Review: Breakthroughs

Click on the links to read the full message on these posts related to breakthroughs.

Image from Flickr by Eric Lockhart

Image from Flickr by Eric Lockhart

 

 

“The worst walls are never the ones you find in your way. The worst walls are the ones you put there – you build yourself.”

 

 

 

 

QC #971b

“Our business in life is not to get ahead of others but to get ahead of ourselves, to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by outperforming today.”

 

 

 

 

“If an egg is broken by outside force, life ends. If broken by inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from inside.”

 

Wiser To Find Out

“It is wiser to find out than to suppose.”

-Samuel Clemens, writing as Mark Twain

When in doubt

Many years ago I read the book Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott. One of the most significant take-aways from her work was the idea that all conversations are first with ourselves, and sometimes they include others.

In fact, the prefix, “con” means “with” or “together,” and thus a conversation actually includes others. Susan Scott would suggest that what we often have are “versations” with ourselves, without ever reaching out to get the other person’s perspective. We simply suppose or “ass-u-me” we know what the other person is going to say or how they will likely respond. We all know about what assuming can cause.

EXERCISE:

How can you make a wiser choice by using a “when in doubt check it out” strategy in more of your interactions today?

Fresh Ambition

“I love the smell of fresh ambition in the morning.”

-Author Unknown

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image from aspiringmormonwomen.org

In the late 90s I was lucky to meet Dr. Wayne Dyer, who was the keynote speaker at a coaching conference. Following his presentation, many of us stood in line to purchase Manifest Your Destiny, which was his new book at the time. I also purchased the optional CD titled Meditations to Manifest. I had always wanted to learn to meditate, and felt this was a good time to start.

The CD contained two meditations: one to kick start your morning, and the other to slow down your pace and quiet your mind in the evening, so you could recharge for another day as you slept.

I particularly liked the premise that each of us is endowed with a god-like quality to manifest our days as we choose.

EXERCISE:

What new or augmented morning habit or ritual could you engage in to help you inhale and pursue your highest ambitions each and every day?

The Best of My Life

“I choose to make the rest of my life the best of my life.”

-Louise Hay, American Motivational Author

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Image from acelebrationofwomen.org

 

Louise Hay is an American Motivational Author and the founder of Hay House. Through her healing techniques and positive philosophy, millions have learned to create more of what they want in their lives.

Hay House has published about 300 books and 350 audio programs by authors who align with Louise’s positive self-help perspective, and are supportive of healing our planet.

EXERCISE:

What actions will you choose to take today, and in the future, to make the rest of your life the best of your life?

How can you support and inspire others in your personal and professional communities to do the same?

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The Best Gifts

“Some of the best gifts come wrapped in sandpaper.”

-Lisa Nichols, Motivational Speaker

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Image from diy.stackexchange.com

Take a moment to look back over your life to examine some of the most significant lessons you have learned.

Who were the people who influenced or participated in these experiences? Some were probably parents, teachers, or bosses with a bit of an abrasive nature that “smoothed” a few of your edges.

EXERCISE:

What challenging experiences are grating on you these days? Which of them may simply be a gift in disguise, because of its sandpaper packaging?

All About Attitude

Friday Review #2: It’s all about Attitude

How’s your attitude today? Here are a few attitude-centered posts you may have missed. Click on the links to read the full message.

Feel free to comment on any of the posts, and of course, on this message.

 

 “Age wrinkles the body; quitting wrinkles the soul.”
https://www.thequotablecoach.com/never-quit

 

 

 

“Complaining is Draining.”
https://www.thequotablecoach.com/complaining-is-draining

 

 

 


“I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened.”
https://www.thequotablecoach.com/unfounded-worry

 

 

”The wise man questions himself; the fool, others.”
https://www.thequotablecoach.com/the-wise-man-questions

 

 

 

 

“Don’t believe everything you think.”
https://www.thequotablecoach.com/everything-you-think

 

 

Love the Giver

“Love the giver more than the gift.”

-Brigham Young, founder of the Latter Day Saints

QC #965Years ago, I read The Five Love Languages to enhance my relationship with my wife Wendy. I still recommend this book to coaching clients who wish a better understanding of their partners. The gist is that there are different ways to show love. We almost always choose to show love in the way we like to receive it.

By tuning into the offerings of others, we can embrace their gifts in the way they are intended, instead of missing the message because we are not speaking the same love language.

EXERCISE:

How could you fully love the givers in your life by embracing every gift they have to offer, in the love language that fits them?

Rainbows Won’t Wait

“The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow, but the rainbow won’t wait while you finish the work.”

-attributed to Patricia Clifford, Film Producer

QC #964

Image from Flickr by Elvis Kennedy

Do you sometimes feel life has passed you by?

Do you tell yourself you will have time – on the weekend, on the vacation, when you retire – to get to the things that matter?

Are you missing too many rainbows?

We cannot schedule the rainbows of our lives – we must seize precious moments as they occur.

EXERCISE:

How can you be more intentional and tuned into your world, so that you can find greater joy and fulfillment in life’s special moments?