“On this shrunken globe, men can no longer live as strangers.”

“On this shrunken globe, men can no longer live as strangers.”

—Adlai Stevenson, 20th Century American lawyer, politician, & diplomat

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The Violence Paradox is one of the recent PBS episodes on the Emmy-award winning series, Nova. Although the title doesn’t indicate light TV viewing, I felt compelled to allocate two hours to consider its message.

Over the past few years, I’ve seen far too many examples of violence on local and national media outlets. The phrase If it Bleeds, it Leads, is more true than ever, given the hyper-competitive efforts to get and hold our attention.

Surprisingly, I learned in watching the Nova episode that in many ways our world is far safer and less violent than at any time in human history. This is based on actual data and not simply our perception of danger around every corner.

EXERCISE:

Invest some time to evaluate The Violence Paradox for yourself, and see the methods that are being employed to reduce our “stranger danger” perspective of our shrinking world.

What personal efforts can and will you take to bring greater peace to your personal and professional communities?

“Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability.”

“Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability.”

—Roy L. Smith, 20th Century American Clergyman

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Heat treatment is the process of heating and cooling metals to change their micro-structure and to bring out the physical and mechanical characteristics that make them more desirable.

Before modern metalworking techniques were invented, blacksmiths used heat to make metal more workable in forming them into the shapes they desired and in making them stronger.

EXERCISE:

Where can and will you apply the fires of greater personal and professional discipline to expand your talents into more masterful abilities?

“We all have our limitations, but when we listen to our critics, we also have theirs.”

“We all have our limitations, but when we listen to our critics, we also have theirs.”

—Robert Brault, American freelance writer

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One of the very first personal development programs I attended in my early twenties was Dr. Wayne Dyer’s How to Be A No-Limit Person.

I had recently graduated from college, was just married and entering the working world with great anticipation and excitement. Dyer’s message of being a no-limit person was just the boost I needed to bring my full energy, enthusiasm, and drive to my efforts.

Along the way, I ran into numerous professional and personal speed bumps.

Doubts and discouragement definitely caused me to not shoot as often or as high as before.

Unfortunately, I also began listening to others who put a few more mental barriers in my way, based on their own self-imposed limitations and biases.

EXERCISE:

Where and on what personal or professional matter are you being limited by your own views or the views of others?

What bold and courageous actions can and will you take to be the no-limit person you want to be?

Friday Review: Boundaries

FRIDAY REVIEW: BOUNDARIES

What boundaries have you set for yourself? How do you address the boundaries of others? Here are a few boundary-related posts you may have missed.

 

“You stand between whatever binds you to your past and whatever might be unbounded in your future.”

 

 

 

“Unless you plan on eating it, please don’t bring your phone to our dinner table.”

 

 

 

“Life is the art of drawing without an eraser.”

 

 

 

 

“Home is where your wifi connects automatically.”

“Home is where your wi-fi connects automatically.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Clay Banks

What does your home represent to you and your family?

Explore the following list and have a conversation with your loved ones over a meal instead of engaging in some form of screen time.

My home is a place of…

love/affection warmth caring/compassion safety
security comfort common values fun/excitement
learning respect faith/spirituality stability
honesty/integrity cooperation teamwork achievement

EXERCISE:

What other places or communities make you feel at home?

Feel free to reply to this post regarding your thoughts and observations.

“It’s the rough side of the mountain that’s the easiest to climb. The smooth side doesn’t have anything for you to hang on to.”

“It’s the rough side of the mountain that’s the easiest to climb. The smooth side doesn’t have anything for you to hang on to.”

—Aretha Franklin, Queen of Soul

Image from Unsplash by yns_pit

Have you ever tried rock climbing or one of the climbing walls at your local gym?

If you have, you may have noticed that the wall faces with far more foot and hand holds make the journey upward easier and faster.

Consider how life can be like that. By looking at the rough patches and bumps in the road as teachable moments, you have many more foot holds to push off from in your upward and onward climb.

EXERCISE:

Where and how can you be more appreciative of the rough patches of life, knowing they have helped you achieve far more than times of smooth sailing?

Consider taking a look at your current personal and professional rough patches to shift your view of things a bit.

“Worry is interest on money never borrowed.”

“Worry is interest on money never borrowed.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Ben With

Imagine you had a financial crisis. Instead of asking family or friends for assistance, you found a local loan shark, and borrowed money at a crazy interest rate that compounded daily until the debt was repaid.

Unfortunately, the intention to repay the loan quickly was overtaken by other life events, and the debt and your level of worry and fear continued to grow.

Hopefully, you are only aware of such events from movies or TV shows, but we can all feel the tension and relate to these character’s predicaments.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life are you currently worried about the interest on a loan you never borrowed? Consider looking up Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping to see if these easy methods of self-soothing might help.

“Surprise yourself every day with your own courage.”

“Surprise yourself every day with your own courage.”

—Denholm Elliot, 20th Century English actor

Image from Unsplash by Mitchell Griest

Who is your favorite superhero? Which Marvel or DC character could you see yourself playing in the next blockbuster film?

For Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, it was The Flash, and of course, we all know he had a thing for Mr. Spock from Star Trek.

Somehow, we often look at courage as a trait exhibited by others, such as those in law enforcement, the military, and emergency service professionals.

Consider for a moment where and when you came to the rescue of a family member, friend, or even a stranger in need. Think back to times in your life in which special people helped you.

EXERCISE:

What current life situations require a bit more courage?

When have you surprised yourself and put on your own cape of courage?

Please reply to this post.

Friday Review: Answers

Friday Review: Answers

Where do you turn when you are seeking answers? Here are a few answer-related posts you may have missed. Click to read the full message.

 

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.”

 

 

 

“A wise man’s questions contain half the answer.”

 

 

 

“Imagine that the universe is about to whisper the answer to your deepest questions. You do not want to miss it.”

 

 

 

“Opportunities are seldom labeled.”

“Opportunities are seldom labeled.”

—John A. Shedd, 19th Century American author and professor

For most of my life, I have been fascinated by the subject of personal and professional success.

I’ve read hundreds of books, attended dozens of seminars and conferences, and can hardly count the number of blog posts, podcasts, and TED talks I’ve explored.

In his book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree, Eric Barker digs into the science of success, to mess a bit with the conventional and unconventional wisdom on this subject.

One seemingly universal tenet of success does, however, point to the idea of taking massive action and trying many things along the way to stir up far more possibilities and opportunities to pursue.

EXERCISE:

To what degree are you waiting or being too passive, hoping for an opportunity to reveal itself?

Where would taking far more action and trying many more things help you bark up and climb the right trees for you?