“Nothing is a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children, than the unlived lives of their parents.”
-Carl Gustav Jung, 19th Century Swiss Founder of Analytical Psychology
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Parenting is perhaps the highest expression of love I can imagine. Having two special kids in Dan and Rachel⏤now 31 and 29 years old⏤I know both my wife and I would do anything to support their happiness.
Jung’s statement caused me to ponder just how good a job we are all doing, coaching our children through the lives we live and the examples we set.
How excited are you when you share your life pursuits and adventures with your children?
How much dismay or regret do you experience as you look back, even on today, or into the days ahead? It’s not too late to turn things around or turbo-charge your efforts. I’m sure your children are still watching!
How and in what ways can and will you step into living an even more extraordinary life as an example of what is possible for those you love, especially your children?
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.”
—Steven Spielberg, American director, producer, screenwriter
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Over the past two decades I have had the great honor of coaching close to 100 individuals who were pursuing coaching careers. They all have the common desire and passion to make a positive difference in the lives of others through this special type of relationship.
I am often asked why I have not chosen to build a large organization with dozens of coaches utilizing my coaching approach. The quick and simple answer is that I feel people are better served by finding their own special coaching voice and style. In this way, they create a unique expression of their inherent gift and ability to support those around them.
How can your own mentoring and coaching efforts better support those around you in discovering more opportunities to create themselves?
Think back to the recent Olympics in Brazil, and consider the social supports in place for each athlete. Beyond their coaches, there were friends, family, mentors, and sports psychologists directing their efforts toward personal excellence.
In the event you do not have your own team of supportive individuals lined up to encourage and uphold you, begin today to seek them out, and choose the very best. With a champion’s spirit and effort, both you and those with “good wings” will benefit greatly.
Once your “A” team of supportive individuals are on board, take the initiative to spread your own wings for others to climb underneath.
“Life is very short, and there’s no time for fussing and fighting, my friend.”
—John Lennon, co-founder of the Beatles
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I am currently coaching an attorney who wishes to make a career transition to something far more in line with his vision and values. Ask him about what he finds distasteful about his current career and his response is clear: he does not enjoy all the fussing and fighting.
Examine your professional and personal worlds to determine just how much of your time you and others spend fussing and fighting. If the amount is unacceptable, examine the cost to your health, happiness, and overall life satisfaction.
What steps can and will you take to neither initiate nor participate in fussing and fighting? Lennon’s coaching and life is for all of us to appreciate and be reminded of just how short and precious a life can be.
“The teacher who is indeed wise does not bid you to enter the house of his wisdom, but rather, leads you to the threshold of your mind.”
-Kahlil Gibran, Lebanese-American artist, poet, and writer
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Take a moment to get into an imaginary time machine and go back to your youth.
Specifically, I’d like you to visit your grammar school, middle school, high school, college, and if you had them, post-graduate educational experiences.
As you explore each of these periods in your life, take note of the teachers who have made the most memorable and lasting impact on your life. How many of them challenged your thinking and encouraged greater personal inquiry, rather than simply pouring their reservoir of knowledge into you?
Who are the current teachers, mentors, and coaches that lead you to expand the threshold of your mind? How can you be such a resource for others in your personal and professional communities?
“From the errors of others, a wise man corrects his own.”
—Publilius Syrus, ancient Syrian writer
A highly notable technique to support personal growth and development is to encourage people to embrace failure. When we fail, we have the opportunity to pick up experiential lessons from the event.
Today’s quote, however, suggests that not all lessons need to occur from our own failures, setbacks, and stumbles. All we need do is pay particular attention to the misadventures of those around us. From them, we can glean additional nuggets of knowledge and wisdom.
Given the fact that there is only one of you, and so many people in your personal and professional worlds, the odds favor the open and receptive mind in picking up a higher proportion of lessons this way.
Where and in what ways can you use the errors of others to pursue greater success and mastery throughout your day?
One of the main reasons I enjoy the coaching profession is that it is a very hopeful way of relating with others. We are constantly exploring new and different approaches to better our lives and have a more fulfilling future.
To this end, I encourage you to pursue the two-way street of being a coach for others and having a variety of coaches to support your own evolving life.
Identify one of your unique abilities or special talents and share it with someone in your world who could benefit.
Select a specific area of growth and development you most desire. Secure a coach, mentor, or other individual to support your progress in this area.